韋伊這樣說：「愛，就一個幸福的人來說，是如果見到自己愛的人受苦，便會冀望與對方一同受苦。愛，就一個不幸的人來說，是會純粹因為知道自己愛的人幸福而滿心歡喜，而且不會要求分享對方的幸福，甚至連這樣想的念頭也沒有。」（Gravity and
Grace, pp.55-56）
韋伊道出了兩個愛的標準，這是相當高的標準；也許這不是真愛的標準（即是達不到的也可以是真愛），但我認為這至少是深愛的標準。
近日老婆身體出了點毛病，天天受苦（皮膚異常痕癢，睡不安，坐不穩；西藥無效，中醫難尋），令我很心痛。讀了韋伊這兩句說話，我不必問也知道自己願意跟她一起受苦，感觸的是，我願意也沒用，因為這不能減輕半點她受的苦。
Wong,
回覆刪除May your wife get well soon. I thought I had a 皮膚痕癢 herbal formula for general use when I read "中醫." But I don't. Bad memory. I have only an add-on part for a base formula which is for some other condition. If 皮膚痕癢 is the complication, the add-on part is also used. I can write down the 3 herbs in the add-on if you want it. But I don't know much about herbs. So, I have to write some disclaimer first even though I think these herbs are quite safe. What I think doesn't count at all here. Maybe other people have better suggestions. --zpdrmn
希望她早日痊癒, 或許試試戒口...或茹素幾天
回覆刪除dra
請轉達作為網友對王Sir夫人的問候，願王Sir夫人早日康復！
回覆刪除王Sir:「 Aal izz well」願王Sir夫人早日康復！
回覆刪除JL
煩代問候你太太。 亦可試以下偏方:
回覆刪除1. 片糖煲水 - 用熔化後的片糖水做洗澡水或揸身, 然後不用抹乾, 待自然乾; 轉季時用很有效。 可以一試 ( PS : 不用擔心, 乾後不黏, 很乾爽。)
2. 芫荽煲水 - 用水做洗澡水或揸身, 然後不用抹乾, 待自然乾。夏天比較有效。
3. 羅漢果煲水 - 用法如上。
我兒子用OK, 希望你太太都用得著。 MW
So sorry to hear that. For a brief period, I had itchy rashes that were triggered by stress, and I understand the pain of "皮膚異常痕癢，睡不安，坐不穩." That's damn tough. Your wife doesn't know me, but please send my regards. I hope she will get well soon or at least to find ways to keep it under control.
回覆刪除多謝各位關心。她不是皮膚乾燥痕癢，而是免疫系統有些問題，出了持續性的 hives（俗稱「風lan」），已有六星期了；各位如有針對此症的偏方，不妨提出，讓我參考參考。
回覆刪除如係出風lan，我有個親戚也有此毛病，她服食抗花粉症的西成藥例如 REACTINE 或者 Claritin 等抗Allergy的西成藥後風lan就不會出了。可到西藥房問問藥劑師，相信藥劑師會告訴你哪一只藥比較有效的。（我那位親戚說西藥的效果比中藥好得多）
回覆刪除神洲,
回覆刪除謝謝提議，但已試過這類藥了，只能稍減痕癢，風lan依然不散。這是chronic hives，跟普通hives是不同的。
Has she been put on a course of Prednisone? Prednisone has to be used with caution because of the side effects but it helps for various autoimmune problems. Also try to eliminate as many potential irritants or allergens as possible. Use natural, organic soap or other skincare products and avoid the ones that are loaded with chemicals. Same with household cleaning products. Stress also exacerbates the symptoms of autoimmune diseases.
回覆刪除我最近也有這個問題，而且已經超過六個星期，早晚也出，只有在日間那八小時停止。看過醫生，也吃過抗敏感藥，但藥力一過又出過。我也沒辦法，惟有用最原始的方法，就是不理它，儘量分散注意力。最重要的一點，是千萬要忍，絕對不能搔癢，否則會惡化。我不但有風lan，還同時有濕疹（在頭皮及耳朵，有時還在臉，從歐洲回港後還要新加上鼻敏感），我的處理方法與對風lan一樣，真的癢得不成便用藥止一止，而濕疹比風lan更頑強。對於敏感體質的人，人到中年可能是無法避免的事。如果你找到甚麼良方，請順便告知。
回覆刪除或者試下到出產蜂蜜的養蜂場買些少蜂皇漿（Royal jelly），每天吃一點，據說對增強免疫系統有幫助。
回覆刪除lin,
回覆刪除Thanks for the advice. As for Prednisone, it is a steroid and I don't think my wife would like to try it.
Y W Wong,
回覆刪除//我最近也有這個問題，而且已經超過六個星期，早晚也出，只有在日間那八小時停止。//
- 她比你更慘，二十四小時痕癢。你有試過看中醫嗎？
神洲,
回覆刪除//或者試下到出產蜂蜜的養蜂場買些少蜂皇漿（Royal jelly），每天吃一點，據說對增強免疫系統有幫助。//
- 謝謝，但她有的是 autoimmune disease，是自己的免疫系統攻擊自己身體正常細胞，成因不明，所以吃蜂皇漿增強免疫系統恐怕不會有甚麼幫助。
這兩星期在加拿大風lan好像慢慢好了一點，但濕疹則嚴重了。在香港有一個同事介紹了一個中醫，如果回港後風lan又打回原形，應該會試一試的。
回覆刪除我兒子亦是免疫系统問題, 做測試又無菌; 沒有藥吃, 醫生說只要不抓, 情况不會轉壞。 可是痕癢難忍, 所以用以上片糖水, 芫荽水, 羅漢果水晚上洗澡後有得睡眠。 不用吃, 不妨一試。 MW
回覆刪除You might be tired of all these suggestions. I'm "atopic" - I suffer mostly from asthma, but sometimes it gives me skin problems as well. I think I can relate to your wife's situation and empathize to some extent. I have learned to be more attentive to my body in order figure out what the triggers are for my specific problems.
回覆刪除For skin care, I know Cetaphil products are often recommended for people with a variety of skin problems as they are gentle and cause less irritation. I use its cleanser myself. I have also used natural lavender oil as moisturizer. You can do some research on it.
點解冇人恭喜你是個幸福的人？我這個不幸的要恭喜下你。
回覆刪除王Sir,
回覆刪除//但她有的是 autoimmune disease，是自己的免疫系統攻擊自己身體正常細胞，....//
我說的「增強」是說錯了， Immunomodulatory 應該是「調節」免疫系統才對。
有報導 《The effects of royal jelly on autoimmunity in Graves' disease》，認為royal jelly 對 autoimmune disease 有好的幫助。
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Royal_jelly
僅供參考：
回覆刪除http://lup.sagepub.com/content/18/1/44.abstract
http://www.bee-pollen-buzz.com/royal-jelly-for-autoimmunity.html
Wong,
回覆刪除Disclaimer: For reference only. Not recommendations.
With limited resources, I find the 4 herbs below may help. But I'm no herbalist.
It is not a formula. The 4 herbs are not meant to be used together. I don't know if they can be put together or not, probably not. If used, use each herb separately. No dosage is shown here. You have to dig a bit or ask someone like herb storekeeper.
The 4 herbs are:
1. 馬兜鈴 for 瘙(疥瘡?)癢. Can be used topically or taken orally.
The others below are to be taken orally.
2. 白芷 for 風痺燥癢, can be brewed with 大棗 (black ones).
3. 桑枝 (枝, not leaves or other parts)for 全身風癢干燥.
4. 紫葳 for 血熱身癢.
It may not help much. But that's all I've got.
--zpdrmn
Forgot: In Chinese medicine, there are different kinds of itches. --zpdrmn
回覆刪除中医认为，肺在五行中属“金”，对应“秋季” 。 又 肺主皮毛, 皮膚問題, 根源可能與肺有關。 讀讀這篇, 看是否會有所悟。
回覆刪除http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_643c2b690100jtvn.html
芳名
多謝各位提供的意見，我會逐一看看。
回覆刪除Yan,
回覆刪除//點解冇人恭喜你是個幸福的人？我這個不幸的要恭喜下你。//
- 你有沒有一個幸運的人關心你？
//你有沒有一個幸運的人關心你？
回覆刪除這倒不是。
Yan,
回覆刪除我是問你有沒有，不是估你沒有。
Wong,
回覆刪除眼花花。有。
Yan,
回覆刪除有就得喇！
Wong,
回覆刪除有時你都幾有智慧咖喎。
Yan,
回覆刪除有時你都幾識講嘢咖喎。
Wong,
回覆刪除A wild guess below, please check with herbalists.
風癢 may be related to allergy or just dryness.
血熱身癢 may be related to inflammation.
both may also be related to the immune system. --zpdrmn (getting wild... in guessing)
像lin說，家中各cleaning products 跟skincare都有可能有irritant.不要忘記check埋洗衣粉!
回覆刪除Wong,
回覆刪除這篇文留不到言。之前的留言都消失了！（on my browser at least)
http://fishandhappiness.blogspot.com/2011/10/blog-post_12.html
shiren,
回覆刪除在 scam box 也找不到你的留言啊！可以再留過嗎？
沒有地方留言啊！沒有 張貼意見 的框。所有留言都不見了（其他人留的）。我是說這篇
回覆刪除情感的恐怖片
http://fishandhappiness.blogspot.com/2011/10/blog-post_12.html
shiren,
回覆刪除是 setting 出了錯，已改正了。謝謝你指出。