Besides, it is also about instinct and experience as well.回覆刪除
The sense of trust also applies to cyber space.
AGREE with Catcat回覆刪除
//The sense of trust also applies to cyber space.//
To a lesser degree, I think.
catcat & dra,回覆刪除
They would have to trust you enough and feel comfortable enough to stay with you too. You are very generous to have them stay in your place, and by doing so, you are opening up yourself to them as a friend.回覆刪除
Well, the chance that you or your friends could be some crazy murderers is extremely small. But I believe there are other risks that are more realistic that would enter into one's calculation as to whether one stays in a hotel or with the friend. Especially with your friend L, you two met only a couple of times, he traveled to your place by train, and so if things didn't work out during his stay (like you turned out to be a big weirdo), he would be kind of trapped.
What I realize in the American society, where the home is one's castle and where one's privacy is often carefully guarded, whether one opens up his or her home to someone else, even to just a causal dinner, is a significant step in building relationships. In measures of friendship commonly used in sociology, there's often an item about whether one has invited someone to his or her home for dinner to tap into the level of friendship. (Actually, it has been used to measure inter-racial relationship/racial integration.)
So I think the risk you and your friends took is whether to open yourselves up for the friendship.
Sorry, social trust and social ties are something of interest to me.
This is going to sound odd... I don't think it is that different from trusting a chair when we sit on it... or trusting a bridge when we walk on it.回覆刪除
It is an experience-based response...
I agree with everything you said.
I think you are right; we need to trust many other things than just people. It's just that a chair, say, is more predictable than a person.
Consider the students' performance in their exams, my confidence on 'future' chairs / bridges has reduced :P