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免費性愛

Woody Allen有句幽默而深刻的說話:"The most expensive sex is free sex." 甚麼是free sex?就是不用付錢而得到的性愛;既是免費,為何又會是最昂貴的呢?Woody Allen說的免費性愛,是指男女朋友或夫妻之間的性愛,那當然是不涉及錢銀交易,可是,說那是免費的,卻大有問題。

從表面看,Woody Allen的意思是要弄到女朋友跟自己上床,之前可要花很多心思、時間、和金錢,到娶她為妻時,已累積了很大的投資,何來免費?是非常昂貴才對。

然而,他那句說話深刻之處是指這種關係一從費用上想,便已是想錯了。本來應該收費而不收費的,才叫免費;男女由愛而性,有甚麼免費不免費的?如果想到那個「費」字,便自然會來個cost-benefit analysis,結果就是發覺世上不但沒有免費的午餐,也沒有免費的性愛。

兩情相悅,講心不講金,這是理想主義者的看法。然而,世情薄,人情惡,不少人看愛情如雨送黃昏花易落,到頭來還只是看自己的得失,於是,那個cost-benefit analysis就不能不做了。

這樣的所謂愛情,其實,有多少愛,有多少情?

10 則留言:

  1. I am really tempted to say it is just due to chemical reactions...


    (Yet, it definitely needs more research to prove the notion. We now have ED drugs. Soon we would have love drugs... We would just keep taking it and we would finally have peace (?!))

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  2. RandomCoil,

    //I am really tempted to say it is just due to chemical reactions...//

    - Not sure what the "it" refers to. Love?

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  3. RandomCoil,

    Sex may all be chemical reactions, but love is more complex.

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  4. This entry makes me think of the whole "friends with benefits"/"hooking up" phenomenon - which seems on the surface a fair deal for the two consenting individuals to get "free sex." But in the end, there are still "costs" involved, and it's about more than just sex.

    Lin

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  5. Lin,

    Perhaps one-night stand is the only free sex (if it's done safely)?

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  6. 又是那句﹕「世上沒有免費午餐。」

    阿珍....不....佛利民名言.... :D

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  7. 艾力,

    其實免費午餐有時也會有的。

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  8. 我對你引用的Woody Allen那句話理解是,只有情投意合,有愛情為根基的性愛才是最歡愉的。言外之意是叫大家不要去嫖妓,包二奶等。

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  9. kihitori,

    他那句說話可圈可點,但我卻看不出你看到的意思。

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