Mr. Wong, This is very interesting and helps me to recall what I had learned from before,thank you. Here is another example, I hope it won't make you stereotype the Chinese woman,that all of them are the SAME:Last week in a department store, a Chinese lady find a luggage bag she want to buy is not on discount, but she find another luggage bag with different color is on discount, so she bring both luggage bags to the cashier, telling her that these two bags are the SAME , so they shall be ALL on discount. She is not happy at all, when the cashier telling her they are not the SAME. The Chinese lady try to keep reasoning the cashier again and again, the two luggage are the same, they shall be have the same price but the cashier telling her she can't do that, they are not the SAME, the lady then walked away, don't buy either of one of them....10 minutes later, she come back again. I guess she finally think all luggage are bags are the same, only the price are different!
老舍工:I am not sure how this example relates to what Wong was talking about. I understand that the Chinese lady was probably pushy and even impolite in this situation from your description. However, I don't think it would be wrong to ask if the bag in the different color had the same discount too. One thing I have learned in the US is that it never hurts too ask (be polite and reasonable of course), and the worst is that people might say no. It could have been a mistake too that the luggage of the other color was not given a discount...(not with luggage, but I have this experience with clothing). Sometimes when you ask very nicely, the salesperson might say not but give you further information, like, "sorry this color is not on sales right now but we have a special promotion coming up....etc." Heck, sometimes I am even not that interested, but I just ask questions while I make small talks. I am always polite and all smiles. though. Perhaps I got used to living in a small city.Sometimes you get special discounts, late fee waivers, upgrades, etc. just because you ask. One time when I was out for dinner with a bunch of faculty, one of us asked if the discount for local college students would apply to faculty as well - and we got it. And of course we tipped the waitress well in return. It was all in good fun.
It is not wrong to ask for better deal, everyone has the right to ask for that. But in this case, I was amused by her point of argument, when both are luggage are with different price tags, and two totally different color, she keep saying they are the SAME. Her behavior fit the impression of Chinese people in my mind: they can deny fact and reality, if they want to suit their own purpose. Besides, she speak English to Cashier,but Mandarin to her friend she really like the expansive one but complain that cashier won't change the price. I could listen both.
我用的教科書是：Brooke Moore & Richard Parker, Critical Thinking。這本書很貴（九十多美元），如果你只是讀有關認知偏差的，我會推薦以下這本：Thomas Gilovich, How We Know What Isn't So: The Fallibility of Human Reason in Everyday Life（免費下載）
Thank God. I was dumb enough as a kid not to believe every word dumb grownups said (like I was dumb). Otherwise I would have grown up as a dumber person than I am (already dumb enough). --zpdrmn
The two videos are indeed very interesting, in particular the second one. Obviously it has a lot of relevance to teaching and maybe I should encourage my not-so-good students more...Within the people in research, we somehow do stereotype people with different research background as well...