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愛的理由

《碧血劍》是金庸作品中較為失色的,情節不算引人入勝,間中還有悶場,主角袁承志性格毫無突出之處,被沒正式出過場的「金蛇郎君」夏雪宜搶盡風頭(註)。夏雪宜之女夏青青倒性格鮮明,卻不是個討人喜歡的角色:她出場時便盡顯心狠手辣、詭計多端,後來愛上袁承志,兩人相好,但所作所為都離不開因争風呷醋而耍小性子,袁承志身邊的任何美貌女子她都懷疑過,任性的行為更幾乎壞了大事。夏青青沒有阿紫那麼討人厭,但卻也不比郭芙可愛。

夏青青愛上袁承志,可以理解,因為袁承志救過她,而且武功超凡,為人忠厚老實,和她在溫家堡自小見慣的奸惡之徒相較,是清泉比於濁流。然而,袁承志為何會喜歡夏青青?阿九公主無論樣貌和性格都勝過夏青青,且深愛袁承志,還表明愛意,袁承志卻依然是選擇了夏青青,何解?他有愛青青的理由嗎?

有些人認為愛一個人是無需理由的:愛乃自然而生,甚至會有莫其妙的一見鍾情,愛者無法解釋自己為何會愛上對方,說不出對方有甚麼優點或吸引人之處,總之愛就是愛,情既已生,便不由自主。

也許真的有這樣的愛,可是,假如愛可以無緣無故而來,也可以無緣無故而去。當天你突然愛上了她,沒有理由,不能解釋,只憑心裏能感到的一股愛意,便認定自己愛她;可是,如果今天那股愛意突然消失呢?那是否表示你已不再愛她?不要說你肯定那股愛意不會突然消失,因為你沒有理由那麼說 --- 你根本不了解你的愛意。

那麼,是不是能指出愛的理由,只要那些理由一日存在,愛就會持久呢?不一定。如果你指出的理由是其他人都可以符合的,例如「我愛她是因為她美」、「我愛她是因為她溫柔善良」、「我愛她是因為她對我很好」等,你的愛人便可能是可以替代的:假如你遇到一個比她更美(更溫柔善良、對你更好)的人,而對方亦對你有意,你的愛便可能會轉移對象了,因為你更有理由愛這個人。

能令愛持久的愛的理由,應該是持續存在,而且是其他人不可以符合的(或極少人會符合的),例如獨特的性格、表達愛的獨特的方式、相互了解心意相通之深、兩人一起成長和同甘共苦的經歷等。世上有這種愛的理由的情侶似乎不多,因此離離合合,司空見慣。

袁承志最初也許沒有愛青青的理由,也許只是被她的美貌吸引,但到他拒絕阿九的愛時,他應該已經有愛青青的理由,而且是能令他的愛持久的理由 --- 他們生死與共、互相關懷的經歷。


(註)金庸在《碧血劍》的後記說「真正主角其實是袁崇煥,其次是金蛇郎君,两個在書中没有正式出場的人物」,並承認「袁承志的性格並不鲜明」;然而,故事的情節畢竟是環繞袁承志而發展,所以他實質上仍是第一主角。

30 則留言:

  1. http://book.douban.com/review/5070869/

    What do you think?

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    1. 替青青作了個心理分析,卻沒有令她變得可愛。

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  2. 程靈素性情好,深愛袁承志,卻得不到愛,只得到一個為郎捨命的機會。

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    1. 程靈素是為胡裴犧牲的(飛狐外傳)

      回主題,我認為是有無緣無故的愛的,有時愛真的不需要理由,現實生活中不也有些旁人難以理解的情侶/夫妻嗎?不也有些「一個願打,一個願捱」的例子嗎

      我想對心理學、哲學有濃厚興趣的人或會對這題材感興趣(好吧,喜歡多姿多彩的感情生活的人或也感興趣吧)

      不過對普通人來說,愛,有時需要理由,有時又不需要理由,或者說,不一定需要知道理由

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    2. 哈!撈亂左。謝指正。

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  3. 最初的愛是出於美與性, 長期的愛是基於習慣, 與愛故鄉愛舊友愛母校的情況相類.

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    1. 主要是基於習慣的,很可能已不是愛了。

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    2. 好! 基於習慣的,很可能已不是愛了 。。。。。可另題議論!


      愛上了 和 習慣了 .......in my fair lady 裡,


      Professor Higgins 死都唔認 愛上了 Eliza,
      只說:I've Grown Accustomed to Her Face 。。。。her smiles 。。。。her ups her downs 。。。。 her look 。。。 her voice 。。。。 I've Grown Accustomed to Her Face!!!

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HroAq_E075Y


      哈哈哈哈哈哈!

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  4. 九難 長平公主也, 她是 崇禎 之女,
    崇禎 昏庸中計殺 袁崇煥,殺父之仇不共戴天,
    袁承志縱沒有恨九難,但一見到九難,
    就會想起 崇禎,教他怎去產生愛呢?

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    1. Are you sure? Let's assume that you're right.
      A possibility: He may have thought (didn't even have to do that consciously, especially if he considered himself a good person) that 殺父之仇之女,不用愛, 只用做. 做一次==報仇一次. He'd pick 九難 then instead of 夏青青.
      --zpdrmn

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    2. //九難 長平公主也, 她是 崇禎 之女,
      崇禎 昏庸中計殺 袁崇煥,殺父之仇不共戴天,
      袁承志縱沒有恨九難,但一見到九難,
      就會想起 崇禎,教他怎去產生愛呢?//

      - 至少在小說裏袁承志曾為阿九而心動神搖,也因為她而不殺崇禎。

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    3. 哈哈哈哈哈!

      袁承志正人君子也,怎會用姦仇人個女,來報仇呢?

      枉你讀金大師的武俠小說囉!呀 。。。。。其實你有沒有讀過呢?



      至於心動只是一刻,不殺崇禎可以是一時心軟,
      但見九難如見崇禎,怎能產生愛意呢?


      Anyway 讀 飛雪連天射白鹿 笑書神俠倚碧鴛
      我給《碧血劍》排很低!!!

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    4. "枉你讀金大師的武俠小說囉!呀 。。。。。其實你有沒有讀過呢?"

      先生,你說誰呀?

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    5. First, I didn't claim I read 金大師的武俠小說. (I read at least one of his.) I didn't read many fictions. I didn't read many books. No, I did read many books, most of them are children books of my kids. LoL.
      Second, I said "make love," not "rape." At worst, it is consensual but not love.
      Third, I said that it's a "possibility," not a certainty.
      其實你有沒有讀 what I wrote 呢? It's less than a 100 words there. --zpdrmn

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    6. Mr 匿名 5/18/2013 5:11 上午

      ’ you wrote:“殺父之仇之女,不用愛, 只用做. 做一次==報仇一次。’"


      Mr. 匿名 5/22/2013 8:55 下午

      ‘I said:"make love," not "rape.“ ’


      你玩梁振英的語言偽術呀 。。。。 哈哈哈哈哈哈!

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    7. Go back to my first comment, I used 做. I don't know how someone was so sure that it was rape. 做 means rape? 做 can't be consensual? Who used 語言偽術? The one who said it's rape or me? Did he infer something that's not there? Or was he low in comprehension?
      Let's look at the context. From the description Wong provided, it seems to me that 阿九 was willing. How could it be rape when someone consents? Do I read it wrong? --zpdrmn

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  5. 愛 is a much loaded word. We can't be sure when 袁承志 picked his mate whether he was really for love anyway. (Consciously he may have thought he did, unconsciously he may have picked his mate like what is described below.) Let's just talk a bit about picking a mate from available prospects.

    To maximize the chance of spreading his genes, a male would (likely) take all the females he can get. (What was the marriage law at 袁承志's time? Monogamy? I doubt it. If men were allowed to have more than one wife, assuming 袁承志 had enough money, why didn't he pick both women? If he could have only one wife, why didn't he get married with one and find out if the other women wouldn't mind to be his lover?)

    If the male can pick or wants to pick (one can argue that 袁承志 wanted to do that) only one mate, in order to have a better chance to reproduce fitter offspring, he would (likely) pick the female with the "best" genes, like in such a way that the female's genes are the "best match" (" ": my words, I've forgot what term is used) for his, picking by the body smell or whatnot of the females. Well, I'm not too sure about how males do it. Females in general have a better sense of smell than men and use it as one of their ways to pick mates. (Don't have to do it consciously. Do that unconsciously mostly, I think. Correct me if I get this wrong.)
    Now, my wild guess: //選擇了夏青青,何解?// 袁承志 wasn't rich enough to afford two women. (I never read the novel. It's really a wild guess of how rich he was.) He picked only one woman. He smelled and smelled unconsciously. In order to have (he considered that unconsciously too) a better chance to reproduce fitter offspring, he picked 夏青青. Her genes were a better match for his.
    (Sorry about my oversimplification and deromanticizing love.) --zpdrmn

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    1. //oversimplification and deromanticizing love//

      - At least you are aware of this.

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    2. On the other hand, I am also aware that when I have mushy feelings or whatnot, they may not be what I think they are, which could be some illusion or romanticism. (Let me say this. The feelings are real, but they may not be what we think they are or come about the way we suppose. What we think about these feelings may be some illusion or romanticism.)
      I can't say I am sure of what they are. I am more, if just a bit more, sure about what I would do though.
      --zpdrmn (Can't figure a damn thing out.)

      P.S. Calling those feelings love and using it to explain everything about the feelings, the behaviors and decisions that follow, and all the ramifications can be an oversimplification too.

      This just comes up:
      Life and death!! This or that! Pick! Pick! Hurry! Hurry! (Kidding.)

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  6. 數金庸的小说,女主角之中我最不喜歡温青青,可能是我自己不喜歡無理取鬧的女人吧。不止袁承志有這個命,連他的師兄「神拳無敵」歸辛樹也有同樣的命,其妻歸二娘也是一個娨婦 (見飛狐外傳)。金庸的小说中,刁蠻潑辣的女子不少。真要查查他查家是否有一個「人版」给他借鏡呢。

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    1. 歸二娘比夏青青更討厭。

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    2. //無理取鬧的女人//
      無理: That's in the eyes of a man (金庸). Maybe she has very good reasons. We men just can't see it.
      Many things we men do, women would think that we don't have good reasons to do them.
      取鬧 or not is another question. It may not be a bad thing though. LOL. --zpdrmn

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  7. TVB版的夏青青,真的無理取鬧,刁蠻潑辣。 看過07年央視版,黄圣依饰演的夏青青,我還蠻喜欢的。

    世上哪裡什麼特別的,持續存在,愛的理由?

    我認為“無可奈何的變心/分心” 更符合人性。

    人會變, 人會老,//生死與共、互相關懷的經歷。// 已經係過去了。已經不是理由。

    我認為有時 - 係念舊,理性,負責任的人,選擇繼續堅持去愛。

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    1. //世上哪裡什麼特別的,持續存在,愛的理由? //

      - 有的。

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    2. // 袁承志最初也許沒有愛青青的理由,也許只是被她的美貌吸引,但到他拒絕阿九的愛時,他應該已經有愛青青的理由,而且是能令他的愛持久的理由 --- 他們生死與共、互相關懷的經歷。//

      最終都係要訴諸兩個個體之共同歷史作為理由。

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  8. 王教授,「莫明其妙」是否應作「莫名其妙」?

    S&B

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    1. 對,已改了,謝謝指正。

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    2. 中台兩地都接受「莫明其妙」了。內地的《現代漢語詞典》已收此詞,台灣的《國語辭典》也是:

      1. 莫明其妙
      注音一式 ㄇㄛˋ ㄇ|ㄥˊ ㄑ|ˊ ㄇ|ㄠˋ
      漢語拼音 m  m n  q  mi o 注音二式 m  m ng ch  mi u
      不能明白其中的原因。兒女英雄傳˙第九回:「這一句話,要問一村姑蠢婦,那自然一世也莫明其妙。」亦作「莫名其妙」。

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    3. 原來如此,謝謝!

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